MrB and I are celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary today — not to be confused with a date-a-versary. In February 2018, I wrote a 20th date-a-versary post and a few people have been befuddled by the number of years ever since. Sorry, y’all!
Anyway, although I haven’t been able to find the rejection letter that I sent MrB as he was attempting to woo me in 1998, I recently found this 1996 response to a Christmas card I sent him.
At the time, MrB was the managing editor at the Wall Street Journal. I had left my far lower-level job at the WSJ in the summer of 1995 for a job at CNN where I wound up working for the deplorable Lou Dobbs. For reasons that I got into in a Twitter thread today, MrB was the only WSJ executive who I felt could be a good future job reference for me, and I dutifully sent him a holiday card each year. I would deliberately time the card so he’d get it on the last possible business day before Christmas, so that he — being a nice guy — would have to respond during the holiday week (look at the date on the note). What can I say? I left the Journal with bad feelings and I enjoyed this teeny-weeny passive-aggressive act. I didn’t expect him to notice; it was like an in-joke with myself.
I certainly didn’t predict that those cards would lead to dating in 1998 and a wedding in 2001.
A lot of WSJ people attended the wedding, including the guy who gave me one of the worst performance reviews of all time — OF ALL TIME! He wished us well, of course. To think I was entertained by the petty holiday-card timing thing! If the Oracle of Delphi had sworn that the guy who wrote this about me would someday be congratulating me on my marriage to his boss, I would have been like, “Damn, oracles aren’t what they used to be!”
Anyway, I guess my relationship advice is that holiday cards are better sent late-ish than never. Nah, actually, my best advice is to give extra consideration to people who are kind to pets, like MrB is.
Animal guests always add a lot of cuteness to a wedding.
UPDATED TO ADD: A part of my six-page rebuttal to the worst performance review OF ALL TIME is here.