{"id":42473,"date":"2019-05-08T02:36:47","date_gmt":"2019-05-08T06:36:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/?p=42473"},"modified":"2019-05-08T02:36:47","modified_gmt":"2019-05-08T06:36:47","slug":"2019-met-gala-best-of-the-rest","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2019\/05\/2019-met-gala-best-of-the-rest\/","title":{"rendered":"2019 Met Gala: Best of the Rest"},"content":{"rendered":"

Have you ever had that experience where you’re trying your damndest to get a life-changing opportunity, and you’ve put in your best effort, and you’ve been your best self, and you’ve gotten to the final round — and the people in charge pick your fucking Tether<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Whether it’s a school admission, a job, or a purely hypothetical jewelry trunk show at a purely hypothetical retailer, the situation I’m describing is rarer than you might think. I’m not talking about when your rival’s advantage is obvious, like a parent who buys a building<\/a> or pays a bribe<\/a>; or a family member<\/a> who puts in a good word with an employer; or a straight-out family-owned company<\/a> with lots of money and generations of industry contacts. I’m excluding the toxic and discriminatory environments, where you look around and all the employees are white, and you’re not. Or they’re all men, and you’re not. Or they’re all white men, which is the story of my corporate life<\/a>. At any rate, there’s not much mystery there. There’s also a more benign but no less disappointing occurrence in which an insider is highly favored\/already chosen for a job, but the company is obligated to post the opening due to a law, or a union agreement, or because human resources has to earn their pay somehow.<\/p>\n

I’m speaking about a time you get the rejection, and you’re like …<\/p>\n

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