{"id":34385,"date":"2016-10-08T16:41:07","date_gmt":"2016-10-08T20:41:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/?p=34385"},"modified":"2016-10-08T16:41:07","modified_gmt":"2016-10-08T20:41:07","slug":"oldchella-day-1-and-thoughts-on-the-trump-tapes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2016\/10\/oldchella-day-1-and-thoughts-on-the-trump-tapes\/","title":{"rendered":"Oldchella Day 1 and Thoughts on the Trump Tapes"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m enjoying a weekend at &#8220;Oldchella,&#8221; aka the <a href=\"http:\/\/deserttrip.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Desert Trip music festival<\/a>, in California. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2016\/10\/08\/arts\/music\/desert-trip-bob-dylan-rolling-stones-review.html?_r=0\" target=\"_blank\">Last night<\/a>, I saw the Rolling Stones. I missed the opener, Bob Dylan, but the reason why is kind of great; you&#8217;ll get that story later. Tonight I&#8217;m seeing <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2014\/01\/musical-interlude-neil-young-at-carnegie-hall\/\" target=\"_blank\">Neil Young<\/a> and my almost-husband, <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2016\/08\/musical-interlude-my-almost-husband-paul-mccartney\/\" target=\"_blank\">Paul McCartney<\/a>.\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.esquire.com\/entertainment\/music\/a49401\/desert-trip-day-one-the-rolling-stones\/?src=socialflowTW\" target=\"_blank\">Sir Paul showed up last night<\/a> to watch Dylan and the Stones, meaning he was there to see the Stones cover &#8220;Come Together&#8221; by the Beatles.<\/p>\n<p><center><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-captioned data-instgrm-version=\"7\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:658px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\">\n<div style=\"padding:8px;\">\n<div style=\" background:#F8F8F8; line-height:0; margin-top:40px; padding:62.4305555556% 0; text-align:center; width:100%;\">\n<div style=\" background:url(data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACwAAAAsCAMAAAApWqozAAAABGdBTUEAALGPC\/xhBQAAAAFzUkdCAK7OHOkAAAAMUExURczMzPf399fX1+bm5mzY9AMAAADiSURBVDjLvZXbEsMgCES5\/P8\/t9FuRVCRmU73JWlzosgSIIZURCjo\/ad+EQJJB4Hv8BFt+IDpQoCx1wjOSBFhh2XssxEIYn3ulI\/6MNReE07UIWJEv8UEOWDS88LY97kqyTliJKKtuYBbruAyVh5wOHiXmpi5we58Ek028czwyuQdLKPG1Bkb4NnM+VeAnfHqn1k4+GPT6uGQcvu2h2OVuIf\/gWUFyy8OWEpdyZSa3aVCqpVoVvzZZ2VTnn2wU8qzVjDDetO90GSy9mVLqtgYSy231MxrY6I2gGqjrTY0L8fxCxfCBbhWrsYYAAAAAElFTkSuQmCC); display:block; height:44px; margin:0 auto -44px; position:relative; top:-22px; width:44px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\" margin:8px 0 0 0; padding:0 4px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BLTMM-Lhecy\/\" style=\" color:#000; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none; word-wrap:break-word;\" target=\"_blank\">The Rolling Stones covered the Beatles at #deserttrip and Paul McCartney was there in the audience to see it! #rollingstones #beatles #cometogether #oldchella<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\">A video posted by Wendy Brandes (@wendybrandes) on <time style=\" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;\" datetime=\"2016-10-08T11:13:47+00:00\">Oct 8, 2016 at 4:13am PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async defer src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\"><\/script><\/center><\/p>\n<p>Because MrB is joining me today &#8212; and the reason why he wasn&#8217;t there last night is a key part of the &#8220;missing Bob Dylan&#8221; story &#8212; I got seats instead of doing general admission. For some reason, MrB doesn&#8217;t believe in waiting 12 hours or so to be in the first couple of rows. Crazy, right? So I nearly cried when I first got there, seeing how far away from the stage I was. <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2014\/08\/concert-adventure-part-i-waiting-for-the-monster-tour\/\" target=\"_blank\">I&#8217;ve gotten used to being right up front<\/a>. But the Stones were so great that I eventually accepted watching them on the big screen, while dancing and singing along. <\/p>\n<p>Even from a distance, I became obsessed with the t-shirt with the blue Stones logo that Mick wore for part of the performance.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_34386\" style=\"width: 508px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-34386\" src=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/mick.jpg\" alt=\"Not my normal close-up photos. These are shots of the giant video screen. *sob*\" width=\"498\" height=\"498\" class=\"size-full wp-image-34386\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/mick.jpg 498w, https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/mick-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/mick-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/mick-320x320.jpg 320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 498px) 100vw, 498px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-34386\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Not my normal close-up photos. These are shots of the giant video screen. *sob*<\/p><\/div>\n<p>They&#8217;re not selling it at Desert Trip and I HAVE TO HAVE IT. I realize I only want it because I think it&#8217;s going to magically give me Mick&#8217;s ultra-flat stomach and doll-sized waist (which look so sex-ay on a rock &#8216;n&#8217; roll guy of any age) but let me have my dreams, okay?<\/p>\n<p>My other Stones-related obsession is <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2012\/12\/happy-birthday-keith-richards-and-thanks-for-the-concert\/\" target=\"_blank\">Charlie Watts<\/a>. Don&#8217;t worry. I don&#8217;t want to wear him or anything. I just want to be him when I grow up. I&#8217;m normally very annoyed by the use of the word &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2008\/07\/banning-trite\/\" target=\"_blank\">effortlessly<\/a>,&#8221; but I&#8217;ll make an exception to say Charlie is effortlessly cool. <\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_34387\" style=\"width: 508px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-34387\" src=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/watts.jpg\" alt=\"Charlie, from the big screen at Desert Trip.\" width=\"498\" height=\"332\" class=\"size-full wp-image-34387\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/watts.jpg 498w, https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/watts-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 498px) 100vw, 498px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-34387\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Charlie, from the big screen at Desert Trip.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>I just love the way he looks. Plus he&#8217;s 75 and playing some of the biggest hits in pop-music history to a crowd of 60,000 (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.latimes.com\/entertainment\/music\/la-et-ms-desert-trip-barrier-20161003-snap-story.html\" target=\"_blank\">part of which is much younger than newspaper articles would have you think<\/a>), as Mick Jagger struts his stuff in front of him. <\/p>\n<p>This is life goals for me: Being more of a badass than the grandchildren (or step-grandchildren, in my case.)<\/p>\n<p>Because I&#8217;m here, I&#8217;m not going to take time out to write down everything <a href=\"http:\/\/www.slate.com\/blogs\/the_slatest\/2016\/10\/07\/donald_trump_2005_tape_i_grab_women_by_the_pussy.html\" target=\"_blank\">I&#8217;m thinking in the wake of Trump&#8217;s latest embarrassment<\/a>. But I do want to remark on some of the commentary.<\/p>\n<p>Some men &#8212; and some women too, sadly &#8212; have made a habit of using social media to respond to women&#8217;s complaints about male abuse by deflecting. &#8220;Not all men,&#8221; is their rallying cry and their hashtag. That irritates me. No one fucking SAID that all men do XYZ, though all men benefit from a patriarchal society. Ironically, a guy rushing to say &#8220;not me&#8221; IS making it about him. He&#8217;s forcing himself into a conversation about the female experience. It&#8217;s similar to white people saying, &#8220;Not all white people&#8221; or &#8220;All lives matter&#8221; when African-American people are trying to share their reality. You or I or another particular individual might not be a raging racist, but America was built on slavery and it&#8217;s ridiculous to deny the way that still affects our society. If you&#8217;re NOT a bigot or a chauvinist, you should be able to acknowledge those social issues without becoming personally defensive. <\/p>\n<p>If you still need help understanding this, check out <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/yesallwomen\" target=\"_blank\">@YesAllWomen<\/a> on Twitter. It explains that while &#8220;not all men&#8221; are sexually threatening, &#8220;yes all women&#8221; do have to fear sexual violence from (some) men. If you&#8217;re a woman and you say you&#8217;ve never &#8220;been careful&#8221; in any context so that you&#8217;re not exposed to sexual abuse, I&#8217;m going to call you a liar. In fact, you were probably openly taught that fear! As my parents used to say when I was a teenager and they wouldn&#8217;t let me do something independently, &#8220;It&#8217;s not YOU we don&#8217;t trust &#8230; it&#8217;s THEM.&#8221; This tweet captures it best:<\/p>\n<p><center><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Men: Not all men.<br \/>Men to their daughters: Yes, all men. Every single of them.<\/p>\n<p>&mdash; Saffster. (@shadowofmystar) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/shadowofmystar\/status\/781142372549820416\">September 28, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/center><\/p>\n<p>Anyway, in the wake of Trump&#8217;s &#8220;Grab them by the pussy&#8221; statement, I see some of the &#8220;Not All Men&#8221; commenters scolding the rest of us for being offended because &#8220;boys will be boys.&#8221; Suddenly, the kind of things these men said they didn&#8217;t do is normal manly behavior &#8212; &#8220;locker room talk&#8221; &#8212; that shouldn&#8217;t cause any dismay. HOW DO THEY NOT SEE THE CONTRADICTION HERE? And how wrong they are? I already made an exception for the word &#8220;effortlessly&#8221; above, so I might as well keep going and say something else I typically would not: &#8220;Not All Men&#8221; speak this way. I am 100% sure of that. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.urbandictionary.com\/define.php?term=miss%20me%20with%20the%20bullshit%20\" target=\"_blank\">Miss me with your &#8220;boys will be boys&#8221; bullshit<\/a>!  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m enjoying a weekend at &#8220;Oldchella,&#8221; aka the Desert Trip music festival, in California. Last night, I saw the Rolling Stones. I missed the opener, Bob Dylan, but the reason why is kind of great; you&#8217;ll get that story later. Tonight I&#8217;m seeing Neil Young and my almost-husband, Paul McCartney.\u00a0 Sir Paul showed up last&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2016\/10\/oldchella-day-1-and-thoughts-on-the-trump-tapes\/\">Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":34386,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[726,36,581,49,42],"tags":[929,927,749,925,926,928],"class_list":{"0":"post-34385","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-art-entertainment","8":"category-beatles","9":"category-concerts","10":"category-in-the-news","11":"category-music","12":"tag-bob-dylan","13":"tag-desert-trip","14":"tag-donald-trump","15":"tag-grab-them-by-the-pussy","16":"tag-oldchella","17":"tag-rolling-stones","18":"entry"},"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34385","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34385"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34385\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":34397,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34385\/revisions\/34397"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/34386"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34385"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34385"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34385"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}