{"id":27090,"date":"2014-09-19T13:52:41","date_gmt":"2014-09-19T17:52:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/?p=27090"},"modified":"2019-11-01T11:04:15","modified_gmt":"2019-11-01T15:04:15","slug":"celebrating-joan-rivers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2014\/09\/celebrating-joan-rivers\/","title":{"rendered":"Celebrating Joan Rivers"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#8217;re a <em>Fashion Police<\/em> fanatic\/Joan Rivers fan, turn on E!, because <a href=\"http:\/\/www.eonline.com\/shows\/fashion_police\/news\/580058\/melissa-rivers-set-to-join-fashion-police-co-hosts-to-celebrate-and-pay-tribute-to-joan-rivers-in-on-air-special\" target=\"_blank\">the network is running an all-day marathon of the show in memory of Joan right now<\/a>. Joan&#8217;s daughter Melissa will appear on special tribute episode at 8 PM ET.<\/p>\n<p>When I started this blog in 2007, its motto was &#8220;Wear What You Want&#8221; &#8212; my way of encouraging peeps to defy what I called the &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2011\/12\/wear-what-you-want-because-it-hurts-me-so-good\/\" target=\"_blank\">self-appointed fashion police who snark on anyone who shows a little creativity<\/a>.&#8221; This August 26, as I watched the official <em>Fashion Police <\/em>show on the <a href=\"http:\/\/joanrivers.com\/2014\/08\/27\/fashion-police-special-2014-vmas-and-emmys-episode\/\" target=\"_blank\">MTV Video Music Awards and the Emmys<\/a>, I thought, for the zillionth time, that I really needed to write a post clarifying that Joan Rivers was not the target of my anti-policing wrath (okay, just <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2007\/10\/where-be-your-gibes-now\/\" target=\"_blank\">this time<\/a>). Joan was a comedian doing outrageous schtick. (Her unfunny E! cohosts &#8212; Kelly Osbourne and Giuliana Rancic &#8212; <em>them<\/em> I have a problem with. I usually enjoy the third cohost, George Kotsiopoulos, because he&#8217;s more open-minded and less whiny.)<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_27271\" style=\"width: 508px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.esquire.com\/features\/what-ive-learned\/joanrivers0507\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-27271\" class=\"wp-image-27271\" src=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/cher..jpg\" alt=\"cher.\" width=\"498\" height=\"73\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/cher..jpg 638w, https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/cher.-300x44.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 498px) 100vw, 498px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-27271\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Click for other great Joan lines.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>If Joan had had the late-night network show as she deserved, she&#8217;d be riffing off all kinds of current events in her monologue. But, because <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2014\/02\/seth-meyers-and-jimmy-fallon\/\" target=\"_blank\">late night is firmly in the hands of white men in suits<\/a>, Joan had to focus her talents on the traditionally feminine &#8212; and therefore overlooked and <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2007\/10\/why-does-buyers-guilt-focus-on-fashion\/\" target=\"_blank\">disrespected<\/a> &#8212; topic of fashion.<\/p>\n<p><center><a id='Yv1W7sONTdhbL22ospGjNg' class='gie-single' href='http:\/\/www.gettyimages.com\/detail\/138838065' target='_blank' style='color:#a7a7a7;text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal !important;border:none;display:inline-block;'>Embed from Getty Images<\/a><script>window.gie=window.gie||function(c){(gie.q=gie.q||[]).push(c)};gie(function(){gie.widgets.load({id:'Yv1W7sONTdhbL22ospGjNg',sig:'GJnwTIO7z21H68TmZIp7jZh7ptQQCxxS4_BasfDqaPA=',w:'469px',h:'594px',items:'138838065',caption: true ,tld:'com',is360: false })});<\/script><script src='\/\/embed-cdn.gettyimages.com\/widgets.js' charset='utf-8' async><\/script><\/center><br \/>\n<center><em>Joan&#8217;s Fashion Police comment on Corinne Bailey Rae&#8217;s hair at the 2012 Grammys: &#8220;&#8221;This hairstyle is called a Demi Moore because it&#8217;s disturbingly unbalanced.&#8221; <\/em><\/center><\/p>\n<p>For the zillionth time, I thought, &#8220;I&#8217;ll get around to writing that post &#8230; someday.&#8221; I felt like I had all the time in the world because Joan seemed unstoppable. I figured her competitive spirit meant she&#8217;d at least tie Betty White for career longevity and Betty is 92. Joan was only 81. I had 11 years to write that post! <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2014\/09\/05\/arts\/television\/joan-rivers-dies.html?action=click&amp;contentCollection=Arts&amp;region=Footer&amp;module=MoreInSection&amp;pgtype=Blogs&amp;_r=0\" target=\"_blank\">Except, as we all know, I didn&#8217;t<\/a>. The head of the clinic where Joan went into cardiac arrest after a routine throat endoscopy <a href=\"http:\/\/www.latimes.com\/entertainment\/gossip\/la-et-mg-joan-rivers-death-doctor-investigation-20140912-story.html\" target=\"_blank\">has already stepped down<\/a>. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cnn.com\/2014\/09\/18\/showbiz\/joan-rivers-clinic-probe\/\" target=\"_blank\">Joan&#8217;s personal throat doctor, Gwen Korovin, is denying reports<\/a> that she performed an unauthorized procedure during an examination of Joan&#8217;s vocal cords or <a href=\"http:\/\/radaronline.com\/exclusives\/2014\/09\/joan-rivers-doctor-gwen-korovin-selfie-revealed\/\" target=\"_blank\">snapped a selfie of Joan<\/a> when the star was under sedation. Exactly what happened is <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/joan-rivers-case-prompts-state-medical-investigation\/\" target=\"_blank\">still under investigation<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><center><a id='zQGEZJacS3RJOIwXLPBAFg' class='gie-single' href='http:\/\/www.gettyimages.com\/detail\/138835808' target='_blank' style='color:#a7a7a7;text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal !important;border:none;display:inline-block;'>Embed from Getty Images<\/a><script>window.gie=window.gie||function(c){(gie.q=gie.q||[]).push(c)};gie(function(){gie.widgets.load({id:'zQGEZJacS3RJOIwXLPBAFg',sig:'oCoFdiYry3yb1_ZeiMkQcVvD5kgS8sh24ETECDsZ6NY=',w:'426px',h:'594px',items:'138835808',caption: true ,tld:'com',is360: false })});<\/script><script src='\/\/embed-cdn.gettyimages.com\/widgets.js' charset='utf-8' async><\/script><\/center><br \/>\n<center><em>Joan delivered zingers even when she complimented a star. Of former Destiny&#8217;s Child member Kelly Rowland, seen at the 2012 Grammys, she said, &#8220;She looks so good Beyonce tried to fire her again.&#8221;<\/em><\/center><\/p>\n<p>If you want to understand what Joan was like in her later years, watch the 2010 documentary, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.imdb.com\/title\/tt1568150\/\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Joan Rivers: A Piece of Work<\/em><\/a>, which reveals the comedian&#8217;s obsession with working as well as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.glwd.org\/blog.jsp?topic=community&amp;share=18611#18611\" target=\"_blank\">her commitment to her charity work<\/a>.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_27279\" style=\"width: 508px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.esquire.com\/features\/what-ive-learned\/joanrivers0507\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-27279\" class=\"wp-image-27279\" src=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/yom1.jpg\" alt=\"yom\" width=\"498\" height=\"66\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/yom1.jpg 630w, https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/yom1-300x40.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 498px) 100vw, 498px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-27279\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Joan&#8217;s thoughts on doing good. Click for more great lines.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>To understand what a <a href=\"http:\/\/insidetv.ew.com\/2014\/09\/04\/joan-rivers-obituary\/?hootPostID=642ba526d05c32283841a167f569b050\" target=\"_blank\">groundbreaker <\/a>she was, read the condescending <a href=\"http:\/\/artsbeat.blogs.nytimes.com\/2014\/09\/04\/remembering-joan-rivers-comedian\/\" target=\"_blank\">1965 New York Times review <\/a>that called Joan &#8220;&#8230;an unusually bright girl who is overcoming the handicap of a woman comic, looks pretty and blonde and bright and yet manages to make people laugh.&#8221; (The review went on to use the word &#8220;bright&#8221; a third time!)<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s Joan on the Ed Sullivan show in 1967 talking about how men have it easier than women when it comes to dating. Note that she says girls have to be &#8220;bright&#8221;!<\/p>\n<p><center><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/EpPCFoXXhF0\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/center><\/p>\n<p>Joan came so close to being a big late-night star. After getting her break on Johnny Carson&#8217;s Tonight Show in February 1965, she became his permanent guest host in 1983. She did so well that Fox gave Joan her own show in 1986, opposite Carson&#8217;s. It ended in disappointment: She was fired in under a year due to <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Late_Show_%281986_TV_series%29#Rivers_and_Carson\" target=\"_blank\">sagging ratings<\/a> and\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/time.com\/3212274\/joan-rivers-dead-81-remembrance\/\" target=\"_blank\">Carson never spoke to her again<\/a><em>. <\/em>Turning a career downturn into tragedy, Joan&#8217;s husband, who&#8217;d produced her show, committed suicide just months later. Fox should have stuck it out, the way NBC did in the 1990s when <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Conan_O%27Brien#Late_Night_.281993.E2.80.932009.29\" target=\"_blank\">Conan O&#8217;Brien&#8217;s first show debuted to poor ratings<\/a>. (Men in suits always catch a break &#8212; except when it comes to <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Tonight_Show_with_Conan_O%27Brien\" target=\"_blank\">the crown jewel of the Tonight Show<\/a>, of course.) You can see how great she was as a host <a href=\"http:\/\/www.slate.com\/blogs\/browbeat\/2014\/09\/05\/joan_rivers_beastie_boys_interview_watch_the_group_s_1987_appearance_on.html?wpsrc=fol_tw\" target=\"_blank\">in this 1987 clip of her<\/a> with the Beastie Boys. She&#8217;s like their glamorous, sophisticated aunt, poking fun at them but giving them their moments too. She also gave them her desk!<\/p>\n<p><center><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/S5UaUqH19-Y\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/center><\/p>\n<p>Joan and her daughter Melissa were estranged after the suicide of Rosenberg, Joan&#8217;s husband and Melissa&#8217;s father, but they overcame it with therapy. As <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thedailybeast.com\/articles\/2014\/09\/04\/joan-rivers-queen-of-comedy-dies.html\" target=\"_blank\">Joan said recently<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>&#8220;We\u2019re very close. We have nobody else: she has me and I have her. I think it\u2019s going to be very difficult when I die, very hard for her &#8230; Your child is never not your child. You can be 90 and your mother 120, but your mother is still worried about you.&#8221;<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I believe Melissa is going to be okay because her mother set such a fine example of overcoming hardship and getting up after falling down. (If you lose your TV show, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.qvc.com\/jewelry\/joan-rivers\/_\/N-mfluZ1z141re\/c.html\" target=\"_blank\">design jewelry<\/a>!) <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nbcnews.com\/storyline\/joan-rivers-death\/melissa-rivers-her-greatest-joy-life-was-make-people-laugh-n196041\" target=\"_blank\">Immediately after her mother&#8217;s death, Melissa said<\/a>, &#8220;My mother\u2019s greatest joy in life was to make people laugh. Although that is difficult to do right now, I know her final wish would be that we return to laughing soon.&#8221; And Melissa did indeed have me laughing &#8212; and crying a little &#8212; with the<a href=\"http:\/\/www.hollywoodreporter.com\/news\/joan-rivers-remembered-read-daughter-731382\" target=\"_blank\"> letter to Joan that she read at Joan&#8217;s funeral<\/a>, which was the <a href=\"http:\/\/mashable.com\/2014\/09\/04\/joan-rivers-funeral\/\" target=\"_blank\">star-studded gala of her mother&#8217;s dreams<\/a>. Joan had been staying at Melissa&#8217;s Los Angeles home and Melissa started with:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>&#8220;Mom: I received the note that you slipped under my bedroom door last night. I was very excited to read it, thinking that it would contain amazing, loving advice that you wanted to share with me. Imagine my surprise when I opened it and saw that it began with the salutation, &#8216;Dear Landlord.'&#8221;<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>When you read the whole letter, the warmth and humor of their relationship becomes clear. Not every kid can handle an outrageous parent, but Melissa clearly was doing just fine.<\/p>\n<p>E! just aired the <em>Fashion Police<\/em> Grammys 2012 show and it concluded with Joan&#8217;s tribute to <a href=\"http:\/\/wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2012\/02\/whitney-houston-is-gone\/\" target=\"_blank\">Whitney Houston<\/a>, who died the night before the Grammys. She said, &#8220;Though we won&#8217;t see her on the red carpet again, she will always be in our hearts.&#8221; Same to you, Joan. Same to you.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Related reading\/viewing<br \/>\n<\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.thedailybeast.com\/articles\/2014\/09\/04\/joan-rivers-queen-of-comedy-dies.html\" target=\"_blank\">Tim Teeman on Joan&#8217;s thoughts about death<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.vulture.com\/2014\/09\/50-best-joan-rivers-jokes.html\" target=\"_blank\">50 Joan Rivers jokes<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/parade.condenast.com\/333624\/viannguyen\/can-we-talk-remembering-35-of-joan-riverss-best-quotes-and-jokes\/\" target=\"_blank\">35 more Joan quotes<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.eonline.com\/news\/576138\/watch-all-of-joan-rivers-best-late-night-talk-show-appearances-before-and-after-johnny-carson-infamously-banned-her\" target=\"_blank\">Joan&#8217;s best late-night talk-show appearances<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/insidetv.ew.com\/2014\/09\/16\/billy-eichner-remembers-joan-rivers\/\" target=\"_blank\">Billy Eichner remembers his friend, Joan<\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; <\/script><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#8217;re a Fashion Police fanatic\/Joan Rivers fan, turn on E!, because the network is running an all-day marathon of the show in memory of Joan right now. Joan&#8217;s daughter Melissa will appear on special tribute episode at 8 PM ET. When I started this blog in 2007, its motto was &#8220;Wear What You Want&#8221;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/2014\/09\/celebrating-joan-rivers\/\">Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":43926,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[47],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-27090","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-obits","8":"entry"},"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27090","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27090"}],"version-history":[{"count":30,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27090\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":43927,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27090\/revisions\/43927"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/43926"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27090"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27090"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.wendybrandes.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27090"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}